Everything is worth something. Price tags are attached to everything that’s for sale. Things in our house have a monetary value as well as a sentimental worth. People are worth something as well.
We see commercials on TV that plead with you to help those who are in need. People who are starving, diseased, or being abused. They beg the question, aren’t they worth something and ask you to personally attach how much money you think they are worth. I sponsor a child in Brazil through Compassion International. Though they don’t say it, the question stands: Do you think this child is worth $38 a month to help?
Subconsciously, we are constantly questioning the worth of people in our own lives. Is she really worth my time? Do I value his opinion enough to bring up this topic? Should I invest myself into this person? Is it worth the risk to let them into my life? Sometimes, we even give someone a start value and then they start loosing it. They fall in our eyes.
Yet, I know that the worth of someone in our lives are dependent on how much we value ourselves. Our self worth plays into what we are willing to do for other people. My perspective is purely female, but I am sure that it goes both ways. I see relationships where girls are treated like shit but they think its ok because they don’t have much value in themselves. They settle. Sometimes, females will go above and beyond for a significant other when they would never put that much effort in return.
I recently read a blog where it talked about relationships as a business. Though I don’t believe you should do things in your relationships for what you get in return, I do believe that self worth plays a major role. Both people should understand what they are worth and deserve accordingly. Why should you stay with someone who doesn’t understand who you are? If they think so lowly of you, is there a reason to be with them?
I am not only talking about romantic relationships, but also friendships. Friendships should be based on mutual respect and understanding. I personally believe that if I can’t give or be 100% me with you, then you probably are not worth my time. Strong statement. Though I waver in my confidence at times, I have a good grasp of who I am. I am loud and outspoken. I am as subtle as a freight train. I can be bawdy as well as shy. I love to laugh and make fun of myself as well as you, but not in a mean way. I get argumentative at moments but also a caring, loving person. I would do anything to help a friend in need. I am a living contradiction at times with a lot of rough edges that I feel only a special few have come to deal with. If one of these aspects is not your cup of tea, then I don’t know if I can be around you. I am who I am and don’t want to change my personality to suit you.
Knowing your worth is important. You don’t need people trying to steal your worth and depreciate your value. Find and keep people around you who also understand it. You can build each other’s value up and become the best person you can be.
